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Borrow Everything I Know About Building Emotional Resilience

My takeaways from helping deep thinkers, feelers, and creators move through emotional pain and into personal power

Jun 02, 2025

Hey there!

I’m here to help you understand your emotions, not run from them.
Join the movement to reclaim your inner strength—one feeling at a time.
✨ Small steps, significant shifts. Safe spaces. Radical softness. Real change.

Note: Some of my suggestions may seem unconventional, but they are effective. Take what resonates and leave the rest.

I didn’t always feel my feelings.

For years, I was the one holding it together. I cried, but I managed to suppress my feelings.
Then my body said no.
Then the grief hit.
Then I realized: emotions are not weakness. They are data. They are a source of power—if you listen.

Today, I teach people (especially women over 40, but this is for everyone interested) how to reconnect with their inner compass.

This isn’t therapy. It’s self-leadership.

Understand who you are—and what you feel.

You are not “too much.” You are just not numb.
Feelings are messengers. The trick is to stop judging them and start decoding them.

List your emotional values. What matters to you emotionally? Safety? Joy? Justice? Connection? Knowing this gives you clarity when life gets noisy.
Stop performing emotional perfection. No one needs you to be endlessly strong. You’re allowed to feel tired, sad, and messy and still be worthy.
Work with images: for example, take scenes from your childhood that evoke absolute joy, deep sadness, or another strong emotion, and use them to help you understand what you're feeling now. If that doesn’t work for you, try imagining your inner child. Let it act out the emotions for you.
Avoid emotional bypassing. Don't let a “positive-vibe” mentality lead to burnout. Feeling bad isn’t bad. Staying stuck is.

Practice feeling in public

This is wild but true: You don’t heal by hiding. You heal by feeling with others.

Name where you are. Say it out loud: “I’m overwhelmed.” “I feel numb.” That’s the first step.
You can try emotional journaling. Not what happened, but how you felt. Write in colors. Use fragments. No one’s grading you.
You don’t need to be healed to be helpful. Share what you're learning as you go. Someone else might need your half-formed thoughts.
Create small rituals—morning check-ins. Even lighting a candle to mark a boundary. It counts.

Who are you feeling for?

Cartakers, I see you. I suffer from it myself.
There is a significant difference between empathy and emotional overfunctioning.

You don’t have to carry it all.
Boundaries are the shape of love.
Let your feelings be yours, and let others have theirs.
You are not responsible for everyone’s peace. (You are allowed to repeat this sentence.)

Create a check-in rhythm.

Once a week, once a month, once a quarter—

Take a moment to assess your current situation. Let go in between. Constantly focusing on your emotions can throw you off balance. Live and observe, but don’t analyze every scene of your life.
Make an emotional schedule. Weekly check-ins. Monthly resets. Quarterly retreats—even solo ones.
Invite emotional collaborators. Talk to friends who “get it.” Join circles. Be seen in a way that’s not just social, but soulful.
Share selectively. Not everyone deserves your vulnerability. Pick your sacred listeners wisely.

Unpopular emotional truths that work

Feeling everything won’t break you. Numbing will.
Crying is not a weakness. It’s an exhale.
You can be soft and fierce. That’s the goal.

Tactics to grow emotional strength:

Use body cues. Your gut knows before your mind does. Start listening.
Sit with discomfort. It won’t last forever, but it does have something to teach you.
Champion the emotional underdogs. The quiet ones. The ones who’ve been told they’re “too sensitive.” They are the leaders of emotional evolution.
Don’t chase emotional validation. Feelings are not a competition. Your truth matters even if no one claps.

Beyond feelings—into life:

What do I offer?

If you haven’t already, subscribe to my Substack: ✳ Be bold. Take charge. Embrace life.
Book my seminar series about emotions: Read all the information here.
Pre-order my upcoming book “When All Hope Fades - A Survival Guide for Desperate Times” if you want real talk and raw stories.

Create the life you will love.
One emotion at a time.
One brave choice at a time.

With you in softness and strength,
Silke Kristin❁

✳ Be bold. Take charge. Embrace life.

By ❁Silke Kristin Juelich❁

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That’s me: As a single mom and survivor of depression, PTSD, and medical mistreatment, I write—rooted in Islamic Studies, Art History, and lived experience— 𝐭𝐨 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐞, 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡.